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As the Butler for a billionaire family, I've often been queried on the way I refer to people with money, and what the proper adjective might be to describe those with means.
I never thought about this as being a point of interest, but I can see how it might be. And while I'll certainly not cast judgement on what's right or wrong here, I can certainly share my observations.
So here we go with the three most common adjectives used to describe "the other half".
Wealthy:
Well, this is a polite word generally used to show respect. You hear it mostly used in professional service jobs, such as a Lawyer or Investment Counselor referring to their "wealthy clients". It's also frequently used, again in a respectful way, by those of us who do not have wealth. But trust me here, rich people would never refer to themselves as "wealthy".
Privileged:
This is the worst possible way to refer to rich people! But we hear it all the time. Especially on TV when describing some crime or misdemeanor committed by "teenagers of priviledged backgrounds". My best guess is that when used in this way, privileged means access to money.
But what a bastardized use of a perfectly good word. Wasn't Mother Teresa privileged in her life's work with the poor? Aren't we privileged if we find someone to love in this world? I feel privileged if someone unexpectedly smiles at me at the supermarket!
I've never heard people with big bucks refer to themselves as privileged. "Lucky" is the word they'd more likely use. And they all know that luck can run out! (There are even some rich people who feel burdened by their money, and give it all away! Go figure.)
Rich:
Now here's the down-and-dirty word -- "Rich" !
While perhaps a little more vulgar, it's simple, it's to the point and without any affectations. Rich people know they're rich, and that's how they refer to themselves.
So when I refer to people with deep pockets as "rich" (as I've done throughout all my posts), I'm not purposefully being crude, or vulgar or disrespectful. Just trying to deal with reality.
And equating respect with money, by the way, is entirely wrong altogether. Just because they have money, should we respect a corrupt Hedge-Fund Manager? (I guess that was redundant, ha!) Or a drug lord? Should we offer respect to a suddenly-rich bank robber, or lottery winner, or someone living entirely off inherited money?
So lets draw the line:
People with big bucks are simply rich. Not wealthy, not priviledged -- just rich. And they may or may not be deserving of respect, depending entirely upon how they acquired their money, and how they use it.
If you've actually read through all this, please leave a comment! I'd be happy to hear your opinions, not just what's rattling 'round in my own head!
Thanks for reading,
And good night,
Andrew
I think reapect also chould come from how the people use their money .
ReplyDeleteIn my own warped mind & thoughts....
ReplyDeleteWealthy people-Doesn't equate to money, it equates to love, respect, admiration, hardworking, appreciation, family, friendship, lessons learned in life & the epitome of perfection (without the financial aspect), & non materialistic
Privileged people- living amongst their financial means, arrogant attitude, pompousness, dysfunctional... Doesn't appreciate the true meaning life & God, they only see it for what can get out if, & only looks out for number 1
Rich people are... Like assholes,everyone's got them
No one in our family could be described as rich or wealthy, but we make the most of what we have and feel so priviledged just to be alive and share our lives together. Thank you for writing about this.
ReplyDeleteAs a Hedge Fund manager, we don't appreciate your comments here at all. You probably don't even know what we contribute, so please refrain from your insults.
ReplyDeleteAs a Hedge Fund Manager, if so, I think you might have a little more courage than to comment anonymously. I know exactly what you do, and when your "Fund" eventually collapses, I'm sure you could find work at a roulette table somewhere in Las Vegas, or Tahoe. Ha! Please don't write to me again.
ReplyDeleteTo Anonymous above, concerning respect stemming from how money is used, you couldn't be more right! Thank you very much for adding that!
ReplyDeleteHello, Luv 2 Be,
ReplyDeleteI love your definition of Wealthy People, all about family, love and respect. And appreciating life from what you put in, not what you get out. I think you must have a very lovely life, indeed.
This is a "blog" right?!?!?! Last time I checked blogging should be about "letting go, your thoughts, & experiences, & knowledge, informative"... If "insults" happen to be apart of it, then so be it.. IT'S A BLOG!! No one forced any of us to sign on to the blog, we do & did it by choice.. PUT YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES on Anonymous & pull the stick out of your ass!
ReplyDeleteSorry Andrew, but Anonymous irritates the hell out of me :)
Thanks for coming to my aid, Luv 2 Be. I can't imagine a real Hedge Fund Manager would have the time to read this blog. So I'm assuming it was just a spam/scam sort of comment, that I probably should have deleted.
ReplyDeleteBut I don't mind negative comments or criticism, as long as it's reasonably intelligent, or half-way funny. And I certainly don't want to set myself up as a censor.
I could engage a feature that allows me to approve comments before they're posted. But so far I've preferred the spontaneity of comments and allowing anyone to say anything they wish. (The blog host, by the way, catches most spam comments and sends them to a special spam folder.)
But in this particular case, I thought the mere suggestion that a Hedge Fund Manager might be deserving of respect was so amusing and over-the-top that I chose not to delete it. LOL!
Thanks again, Luv 2 Be, and good night,
Andrew